Not too long ago the parent-teacher conference was essentially a one-sided affair. The teacher did all the talking and the parent did all the listening. After all, the typical parent had no training in curriculum or instruction; what could he or she say that would have any bearing on life in the classroom? Well, the truth is that parents have plenty to say -- and the parent-teacher conferences of today reflect that new understanding.

As a parent, you know better than anyone else what moves, frustrates, excites, pleases, concerns your child. You have the insight into what makes your child special. And knowing what's special about a child is the key to good teaching. It allows the teacher to reach and connect with each child as an individual. It makes it possible for the teacher to take a new skill or unfamiliar information and link it to something familiar and meaningful to the child.

Before the meeting, take time to jot down a few ideas about how you can help the teacher see your child through your eyes. Think about personal and social qualities. How does your child view himself or herself? What does she or he enjoy doing when there's time to spend alone? What about favorite books, TV shows, special hobbies or interests? What are your child's social strengths and weaknesses? How does your child get along with other children? With adults?

Think about work habits. Does your child accept responsibility at home? What effective ways have you found to motivate and encourage your child? What works best when you want to praise or correct your child? How does your child prefer to read or study? At a desk? On the bed or floor? With it quiet? Alone or with others?

There are no right or wrong answers to these questions. They are clues to your child's learning style and can help the teacher build a true and complete picture of your child. If you prepare for the conference this way, you take a major step toward reaching the goal you and the teacher share: seeing to it that your child gets the best possible education.

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